Two years ago, I said my political views hadn’t changed. That was true—and also a way of avoiding a harder admission.

What hadn’t changed were my beliefs. What had begun to change was my patience.

I still don’t “do politics” in the tribal sense. I don’t wear colors. I don’t chant. I don’t confuse certainty with wisdom. I prefer things plainspoken—say what you mean, stand where you stand. But time has taught me that clarity is rarely welcome. It disrupts narratives. It slows momentum. It asks inconvenient questions in rooms built for applause.

What age gave me wasn’t ideology. It gave me pattern recognition.

I’ve watched language get sanded down until it no longer cuts the people it was meant to protect. I’ve watched fear dressed up as concern and sold as leadership. I’ve watched principles become flexible the moment they interfered with comfort, power, or belonging. And if I’m honest, I didn’t always call it out. Sometimes I stayed quiet—not because I agreed, but because silence was cheaper.

That part matters.

Politics isn’t confined to ballots or podiums. It shows up in workplaces where “fit” means obedience. In families where peace is bought by swallowing disagreement. In churches where doubt is treated as disloyalty. It lives in who gets grace and who gets labeled a problem. I used to tell myself I was outside of it. I wasn’t. I was just benefiting from not being the immediate target.

What’s changed most is my relationship with certainty.

I no longer trust people who speak in absolutes while never paying a personal price for them. I’m less interested in what someone claims to believe and more interested in what they’re willing to risk for it—reputation, access, comfort, belonging. I’ve learned that conviction without consequence is just branding.

I’ve also learned that hidden agendas aren’t a flaw in the system. They are the system. Once you see that, you don’t get to unsee it. You either perform along with it, or you accept that things may get quieter around you.

So no—my political views haven’t flipped. But they’ve hardened where they needed to and softened where arrogance used to live. I ask different questions now. I listen longer. I assume less. And I no longer confuse staying out of the noise with staying clean.

Standing this way costs something.

It costs ease. It costs invitations. It costs the comfort of being fully claimed by any side. But it buys something better: the ability to sleep at night without rehearsing excuses. The freedom to say, this is where I stand, even when the room shifts uncomfortably.

It may not fit neatly on a ballot.

But it’s honest. And at this stage of my life, honesty matters more than alignment.