“If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be?”
No one.
That’s the answer.
There’s a line people like to quote as if it’s decorative wisdom:
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
— Oscar Wilde
When I was younger, I didn’t appreciate that line. I wanted to be normal. You know — smooth edges, standard reactions, predictable wiring. I wanted to move through rooms without feeling like I was carrying extra weight no one else could see.
Normal seemed easier.
It wasn’t.
Trying to be someone else is exhausting. It’s like wearing a suit that almost fits but never quite sits right on your shoulders. You adjust the collar. You tug at the sleeves. You smile at the mirror and convince yourself it’s close enough.
But it never is.
I spent years getting comfortable in my own skin. Years recognizing my gifts. Years accepting my limitations. Not the kind of acceptance that sounds good in a motivational speech — the real kind. The kind where you sit alone with your flaws and admit they’re not going anywhere.
I’m not going to pretend everything is fine. I’m not floating through life on some enlightened cloud. There are defects in the machinery. There are dents in the frame.
But the machine runs.
And I understand it now.
That’s the difference.
The question assumes there’s something more interesting, more complete, more polished waiting in someone else’s life. Maybe there is. But it’s not mine. And I’ve done too much work to abandon the ground I fought to stand on.
Defects and all, this is my wiring.
Defects and all, this is my story.
Wilde’s quote isn’t cute anymore. It’s practical.
Everyone else is already taken.
And for the first time in a long time, so am I.
It’s about damn time.
Memoirs of Madness 