If your future self could send you one sentence, what do you hope it would say?
If my future self could send me one sentence, I don’t think I’d want advice. I damn sure wouldn’t want him telling me everything was going to be okay. Although, if he happened to include a few winning lottery numbers, I wouldn’t complain.
No, I think I’d want him to answer one question:
Was the juice worth the squeeze?
I’ve spent a lot of my life squeezing.
Working. Learning. Writing. Building things, tearing them apart, and building them again because somewhere along the way I realized I could do it better. I’ve made mistakes. Some expensive. Some painful. Some I’ve probably repeated because apparently the first lesson didn’t take. I’ve lost people. I’ve changed directions. I’ve watched carefully constructed plans fall apart after doing everything I thought I was supposed to do.
Still, I kept squeezing.
The strange thing is, I’m not sure what I expect the juice to be.
Success would be the easy answer, but I’ve lived long enough to know success is a moving target. Reach one goal and another appears somewhere farther down the road. Money would be nice, but I’ve owned things I desperately wanted only to discover they became ordinary once they belonged to me. Recognition? Maybe. Every writer wants somebody to read the words. Anybody claiming otherwise is probably lying a little.
But none of those seem important enough to send a message through time.
Maybe I’ve been measuring the wrong thing.
I’ve spent much of my life fixing things. Sometimes machines. Sometimes systems. Occasionally my own mess. You learn after a while that fixing something doesn’t always mean making it perfect. Sometimes you simply leave it working a little better than when it came into your hands.
Perhaps life isn’t much different.
Maybe the measure isn’t what I accumulated along the way, but what remained after I passed through.
A person who knew something because I took the time to teach them. A machine running because I bothered to figure out why it wasn’t. A story where there had only been a blank page. A conversation that caused someone to look at something from a different angle. Maybe a few people carrying something I said long after I’ve forgotten saying it.
Nothing grand.
I don’t need my name carved into anything.
And I certainly don’t expect to fix everything I touch. Some things can’t be fixed. Some things aren’t mine to fix. Other things will remain unfinished no matter how much time I’m given.
But perhaps unfinished isn’t the same as wasted.
Maybe that’s what I’ve been squeezing for all along.
Not success.
Not recognition.
Not some final tally proving I won more than I lost.
I want to know that my presence mattered—not because everyone knew I was there, but because something was a little better after I left.
So if my future self could send me one sentence, I think I know what I’d hope it would say:
We left things better than we found them.
That’s all.
Because the man sending those words would know everything I don’t know yet. He’d know which plans worked and which ones fell apart. He’d know which stories found readers and which disappeared quietly into the dark. He’d know every mistake still waiting for me and every loss I haven’t learned how to carry yet.
And after knowing the entire cost, if that’s the sentence he chose to send back to me—
then I’d have my answer.
The juice was worth the squeeze.
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Very thought provoking question. Like you, I’ve considered the question from “both sides now” Joni Mitchell…only i’d change it to “all sides now”. As much as humanly possible. I’m still unsure about the question. I don’t know as it’s something I need to know, want to know, and it certainly won’t make a difference to my life, the choices I’ve made, what I’ve survived, the near death experiences that didn’t happen, possibly weren’t meant to happen. It won’t make a difference to the consequences to those chosen decision. Will I feel peace in the knowing…that my life was worth while, accomplished something if not vital, important? We all ask at one point, what is our ‘purpose’ and I’ve never met anyone that hasn’t…not an emotionally aware individual. Not only that, there comes a point in our life where we need to know…maybe it’s the 30 or 40 ish time when time becomes an important vital commodity, the only commodity that matters. Interested in your thoughts on this too.
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