The morning comes in sideways, all wrong angles and cheap light, the kind that makes even clean windows look guilty. I stand at the sink with my hands braced on the porcelain, staring at a man I barely recognize. He has my face, sure—but it looks older this way, like it’s been left out in the rain too long. Rust doesn’t announce itself. It settles in. Quiet. Patient.

Most days feel like I’m banging my head against a wall—metaphorically, of course. I’m stubborn, not suicidal. Still, the effect is the same: that dull reverberation behind the eyes, the sense that motion isn’t the same thing as progress. I’m not exactly sure which direction to take each day. Left. Right. Forward. Doesn’t seem to matter much.

It’s been this way ever since she walked out my door.

I know the story I’m telling. I know the numbers. One in five men will either write a story, a poem, or tell some version of this as a cautionary tale. I’m not pretending I’ve discovered new ground. I’m just standing in it, boots sinking, trying to decide whether I’m stuck or simply paused—whether I’ve begun to exclude myself from my own future out of habit more than fear.

I know the issues I face. I can name them cleanly, like parts laid out on a workbench. Grief. Drift. Habit masquerading as survival. None of this is a mystery. Still, I wait—for somebody, anybody—to come along and open my eyes, as if they’ve been closed this whole time. As if I haven’t been watching everything dim in slow motion, pretending observation counts as progress.

I say my prayers. Not the polished ones. The kind you offer late, when the room has already decided not to answer you back. I don’t pray for forgiveness or signs. What I ask for is simpler, and somehow heavier: one thing I won’t walk away from.

Not because it’s easy. Not because it stays. But because it anchors. Because when everything else loosens—people, plans, the version of myself I thought was permanent—this one thing resists my instinct to disappear. There’s something almost fierce in that resistance, even if it looks like stillness from the outside.

Silently, I weep—not because I’m broken, but because I’m honest enough to admit the truth: I may never be ready.

Not ready in the way people mean it. Not polished. Not certain. Not absolved of doubt. The version of readiness I keep waiting for might be a myth we tell ourselves so we don’t have to act while still afraid—or something I haven’t been honest enough to recognize, let alone name.

Still, there is one compromise I won’t make. I won’t trade my integrity for momentum. Or at least, that’s what I tell myself. Whether that refusal is courage or fear—or a quieter failure of honesty—I’m still learning to sit with the question instead of smoothing it over, to reclaim some small measure of agency without turning it into another performance.

If this means I move slower, so be it.
If it means I move alone, I’ve done worse.

Readiness may never arrive. Integrity may not be as clean as I want it to be. But I won’t pretend anymore that I understand the difference without paying attention.

So I grieve quietly.
I stay where I am.
And I refuse the comfort of answers that let me off too easily.

The rust isn’t gone.
But it has cracks in it now.

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Author’s Note:
This piece was written in response to the creative constraints and quiet provocations of FOWC, RDP, and Word of the Day. Each offered a different kind of pressure—words to carry, boundaries to work within, and a reminder that limitation often reveals more than freedom. I’m grateful for the nudge to sit longer with what resists easy resolution, and to let the language do the listening.