Personal Reflection
We think generosity means giving something away.
Money. Time. Help. Advice.
But most of the time, what people really want is simpler than that.
They want to be seen.
They want to be heard.
They want to know they aren’t invisible.
And that takes something harder than giving.
It takes attention.
Real attention is difficult.
Not the kind where you nod while thinking about something else.
Not the kind where you wait for your turn to talk.
The kind where you actually listen.
The kind where you let someone else exist without trying to fix them, judge them, or rush past them.
That kind of attention costs energy.
It costs patience.
It costs ego.
It means stepping outside your own thoughts long enough to let another person be real in front of you.
Simone Weil called it generosity for a reason.
Because most of the time, we don’t give it.
Not because we don’t care.
Because we’re distracted, tired, busy, or lost in our own heads.
Maybe the rarest kindness isn’t what we give.
Maybe it’s the moment we stop long enough to truly notice someone else.
Reflective Prompt
When was the last time you felt genuinely heard — and when was the last time you gave that to someone else?
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I like this because it’s true.
Thanx
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thank you
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I’m genuinely heard by the people I talk with, and I give them the same respect.
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that is important
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Spot on. And I see it work. Doomed to an AI rota system for staff people can go totally unnoticed. Never praised but always chastised by the AI. Bring back the meaningful, eye to eye, unhurried, not recorded chat.
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before I retired, I was teaching a young co-worker the importance of face to face communication. It’s important because it works. Thank you
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This is exactly true. Our world has become too distracted and less humanized. Another thing we can do for each other is to hug one another better and more often. I was reading that when you go to hug someone, slowly count to five while embracing. You’ll be amazed at how many people pull away before you even get to one, but then they fall into it. We need more hugs in the world these days 🤗
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Hug it out…thank you
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Right now🙂
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for sure
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